Reframing

Last time on the blog I talked about mindfulness as a way to deal with stress, and about how much I suck at it. This week I have been reading Imperfect Courage by Jessica Honegger and was reminded about reframing and how important it is to a healthy mind and body.

Jessica recounts the story of her adoption journey and the chaos that was dealing with international adoption while also struggling to keep a start-up afloat. She was wrestling with so many different factors at once and it felt overwhelming, but she was bringing home a beautiful baby boy. That is what reframing is all about. Life is hard and it gets to be too much sometimes, but it is also wonderful and full of surprises.

Reading Jessica's story reminded me of how I was letting stress wreck my week. February has been insane. It feels like once one thing has resolved, something else comes up. It has been overwhelming at times, and all consuming at others. There have been many times this month where it felt like life as I knew it was imploding. It isn't. In fact, I have a wonderful life. I have an amazing boyfriend, an unexpected miracle that has fulfilled my life in ways I could never imagine. I am surrounded by the kindest people I have ever known, a supportive community of friends and family. I have been blessed with the opportunity to engage in community work, to work with children who are growing up in much of the same ways I did. I have found a life path that aligns with who I am.

Happiness =  reality - shifting expectations. The happiness formula. Creating new comparisons can shift our expectations, reframing negative experiences into positive ones. So, the next time everything feels like it's a little bit too much (because there will definitely be a next time) I am going to remember all of the ways my life is going right, instead of the ways it could potentially go wrong.
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